Anger is an emotion part of the human repertoire of survival emotions and is a reaction to pain. Expressed in a responsible way, you gain the respect of others and you increase your own self-esteem. You simply give voice to how you feel and what you need to feel seen and reckoned with. No problem and life goes on.
However, often we feel overwhelmed by our anger and tend to over-react. We put anger on the wrong person, at the wrong time and for the wrong reason, with sometimes disastrous results. For too long we have ignored feeling upset and suddenly everything blows up, sometimes even to the point of physical aggression. The result is regret and shame and feeling that anger is a negative emotion to be avoided. The cycle of suppression thus continues and could eventually even lead to getting depressed.
After getting a feeling of anger there is a window of opportunity for making a choice for an appropriate response, before loosing yourself in a fully fledged reaction. This choice creates a lot of freedom and takes you from feeling like the victim of the emotion to mastering it.
Together we will look for the true causes of your anger. Often many elements play a part, including unfinished business from the past and emotions of which you are not fully aware. Through re-examining the situation and creating other scenarios, you will see that you have choices available.
By learning to master your anger you will have a tool available to help you reduce stress in your own life, as well as in the lives of the people around you. You will feel more secure, increase your self-esteem and be more settled in the here-and-now.